Geweldloos verzet & nieuwe autoriteit (3-daagse workshop)

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Geweldloos verzet en nieuwe autoriteit

De School voor Systemische Opleidingen te Bunde organiseert een driedaagse workshop met Dan Dolberger over "Geweldloos verzet en de nieuwe autoriteit".
Dan Dolberger is naaste medewerker van Haim Omer en directeur van het instituut voor NVR. Dan is psycholoog en systeemtherapeut, gespecialiseerd in Geweldloos Verzet interventies. Hij heeft een behandeling ontwikkeld voor adolescenten en volwassenen (ook wel "het volwassen kind" genoemd) die last hebben van rigide afhankelijkheidsproblematiek (AED) waardoor ze de stap naar verzelfstandiging niet kunnen maken. Dan is werkzaam als vrijgevestigd therapeut in het Centrum voor Geweldloos Verzet, een advies-en behandelcentrum voor ouders van volwassenen die lijden aan AED en daarbij horende gedrags-en angstproblematiek. Dan heeft samen met professor Omer en hun team een NVR-interventiemodel voor ouder-kind crisissen en AED ontwikkeld en gepubliceerd. Hij is tevens oprichter van een internationaal forum van NVR-therapeuten en lid van het team van de School van Geweldloos Verzet.

Deze 3-daagse workshop introduceert de basisbegrippen en de vele toepassingen van Haim Omer en de Non Violent Resistance-psychologie, als een benadering van systemische verandering door middel van niet-escalerende strijd. Afgezien van deze algemene inleiding zal onze workshop zich in het bijzonder richten op de NVR interventies voor familie crisissen met volwassen kinderen, het aanpakken van de problemen rondom afhankelijkheid, extreme sociale terugtrekking, suïcidale bedreigingen en angst, en de weerstand tot behandeling. Het programma is gericht op de geestelijke gezondheidszorg,  de theoretische kennis en praktische toepassing van het uitvoeren van interventies.  


Praktische informatie

Deelname aan de workshop kost 360 euro, inclusief lunch.
Uw inschrijving is definitief na overmaking van 360 euro op
rekeningnummer NL93 ABNA 04.381.68.062 t.n.v. School voor Systemische opleidingen te Bunde.

Deze workshop is geaccrediteerd door de Nederlandse Vereniging voor Gezins- en Relatietherapie (NVRG) voor 20 punten.

Onderstaand het programma van deze 3-daagse workshop.



The course offers 18 training hours covering the following topics:


  • The family as a political place
  • The evolution of NVR from parental toolbox to a model of parenthood
  • The Principles of NVR Interventions
  • The NVR toolkit (intake, announcement, support mobilization, reconciliation and repair, gestures, documentation etc.)
  • NVRPSY’s prototypical applications: Behavior and anxiety
  • The NVRPSY family of applications
  • NVR as a setting
  • Coping with suicidal threats and anxiety
  • The typical NVR intervention process

Day 2: The Adult Child

  • The clinical phenomena of adult-children
  • The Socio-demographic context of Emerging adulthood
  • Extreme social withdrawal
  • Suicide anxiety and threats
  • Treatment refusal
  • The adult child in family systemic context
  • The social history of adulthood
  • Understanding functional and dysfunctional dependence
  • The adult child in the clinic

Day 3: NVR Interventions for Adult children

  • Distinguishing features relative to other NVR interventions
  • Treating the absent client
  • Coping with suicide threats
  • The model of change
  • Typical intervention course
  • Overcoming barriers and resistance
  • Family-Systemic aspects of NVR Interventions for Adult children
  • Technique
  • Presentation and discussion of relevant cases.

Course teacher: Dan Dolberger

Dan is a psychologist and family and couple therapist specializing in NVR-oriented systemic interventions, with particular emphasis on AED (Adult Entitled Dependence), resistance to family violence, and crisis intervention. Dan manages the Center for Non-Violent Resistance Psychology, a private counseling center for parents of adults suffering from AED and behavior and anxiety problems, which he co-founded with Professor Haim Omer. Dan has developed and published, together with Professor Omer and the center team, a NVR-based intervention model for Adult-child crises and AED. He is also founder of an international forum of NVR practitioners and a team member of the School of Non-Violent Resistance. In the past, Dan has held various journalistic positions, as well as senior business development, marketing and entrepreneurship positions in Israel’s High Tech industry. Dan holds an M.A. degree in Social Psychology from the Tel Aviv University and is a graduate of the Herzeliyah Shinui Institute of Family Therapy.


Our 3 day workshop introduces the basic concepts and many applications of Haim Omer’s Non Violent Resistance Psychology, as an approach to systemic change through non-escalating struggle. Beyond this general introduction, our workshop will focus particularly on NVR interventions for family crises involving adult children, addressing problems of entitled dependence, extreme social withdrawal, suicidal threats and anxiety, and treatment-refusal. The program aims to provide mental health professionals with the theoretical and practical basis of performing interventions, in either parent counseling and/or family therapy settings. Personal supervision will be offered to course graduates interested in further guidance.

What is NVR?
NVR denotes psychologist Haim Omer’s application of concepts borrowed from political non-violent resistance to the sphere of interpersonal caregiving, whether parental, foster, residential, medical, or educational. Since its inception 15 years ago as an innovative intervention for parental authority crises, NVR has grown to cover an entire range of specialized intervention approaches in areas such as organic family or foster/residential care relations, anxiety disorders, school interventions, ADHD, community-driven law enforcement, computer addiction in children, management of Asperger syndrome patients, crises of the adult-child, diabetic children, and more.

What are adult-children?
In the past 40 years the transition into adulthood is becoming longer. The ages of independent habitation, marriage and onset of parenthood are older than before. As the path to adulthood is prolonged, an increasing number of young men and women experience difficulty in completing it. In many cases the transition to fully autonomous functioning does not occur or is reversed after an abortive attempt at independence, leading to chronic dependence on parental support. We call these individuals Adult-Children – young people whose psycho-social development towards normative adulthood has stopped.
The term “Adult Entitled Dependence” was coined by psychologist Haim Omer in 2008 to denote a common family dysfunction he found no existing term for: a relationship where young adults cling maladaptively to their families, while the families maladaptively nourish them emotionally and materially. Some adult-children suffer from disorders such as social phobia, OCD, depression, conduct disorder, ADHD or learning disabilities or schizophrenia. AED's systemic patterns are surprisingly stable across individual pathologies, and tend to reinforce their symptoms. Other adult-children manifest no DSM-related disorder, exhibiting only extreme social withdrawal, avoidance of employment and education, entitled dependence on parents and suicidal ideation.
Adult children in AED families tend to reverse the day-night cycle. Many live in various degrees of isolation (“Hikikomori”), many times their rooms are locked during most of the day, immersing themselves in digital media additions. AED young adults typically they do not work or study, nor develop romantic or sexual attachments. As time goes by their social existence grinds to a halt. Parents suffer from growing social isolation, damage to their work capacities, lowered ability to concentrate, increased stress and anxiety, exhaustion, marital problems, rage, helplessness and guilt feelings.
As time goes by, parents and adult children become ensnared in a vicious cycle we call the “AED Trap”: the more helpless, dependent and dysfunctional the adult child becomes, the more anxious parents become to protect him or her against the requirements of adulthood, which leads to more dependence and dysfunction on the child’s part. If parents express their wish to change the situation or try to reduce their services, the adult child may react violently or threaten that this will only lead to further deterioration, a total break in the relationship, or even suicide. Parents then retract in fear, accepting the status quo as the lesser evil.  They still go on hoping that the child will become more independent, perhaps through therapy or by a process of inner maturing.  However, when things have gone so far these hopes are usually unfounded.
In most cases of entitled dependence the adult-child refuses treatment, and therefore most existing interventions do not work. Distressed parents come to see a psychiatrist, a family therapist or a psychotherapist on their own, seeking “tools” for convincing the adult child to change. These professionals, however, usually refer onwards, saying they cannot work without the adult child’s cooperation.

What are NVR interventions for adult children?
Our intervention applies the principles of Haim Omer’s NVR to cope with difficulties of treatment refusal, extreme social withdrawal, entitled dependence in young adults with and without mental disorders. Systemic change is initiated by unilaterally working with the parents and their social support network. As young dependent adults often say to their parents: "I'm all right! It is you who have a problem. Go treat yourselves!" NVR interventions for AED begin when parents take this advice seriously. They come to treat the situation as their problem, and then learn to re-define the boundaries of their responsibility.
A typical NVR/AED intervention lasts about 10-15 sessions and involves mainly the parents and their social support network. It implements NVR principles such as non-escalating struggle, transparency, publicity, documentation, support and self-change, with the goal of unilaterally changing not the adult child directly but the ecology which nourishes his maladaptive dependence. Like all other NVR protocols, NVR/AED interventions can be applied either as a standalone, short-term parent counseling, or within the larger context of family or couple therapy. It can be performed with or without the adult child’s cooperation, and can be effectively combined with psychotherapy, CBT, psychiatry, social work, coaching and education.

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