3-day workshop
From Victimisation to
Re-kindling the Caring Dialogue
by Peter Jakob

29 - 31 March, 2017

 
In cooperation with the School for Systemic Education of Jan Olthof, Peter Jacob organises the workshop:

“From Victimisation to Re-kindling the Caring Dialogue

Constructing stories of strength, care, compassion and connection Nonviolent Resistance and New Authority

Date and time
29 - 31 March, 2017
from 10.00 – 17.30 hrs.
 
Register
To sign up for this course send an email to the program coordinator:
Mariëlle Gelissen
E: info@schoolvoorsystemischeopleidingen.nl
 
For more information you can also contact Mariëlle by phone:
M: 0031 (0) 6 18050855.
 
Cost
The workshop will cost € 480 (including reader and lunch), to be transferred to bank account
IBAN NL 93 ABNA 0438168062 / BIC: ABNANL2A
attn. School voor systemische opleidingen
Bunde – The Netherlands
 
Below you will find the program of the 3-day workshop.



 From Victimisation to Re-kindling the Caring Dialogue:

 

Constructing narratives of strength, care, compassion and connection in Non Violent Resistance and New Authority

 
This seminar and masterclass is suitable for professionals such as psychologists, social workers, family therapists, psychotherapists, special needs practitioners, mental health nurses and others who work with families, children in foster care and in residential children’s homes.
 
Non Violent Resistance and New Authority is a fast growing systemic approach for dealing with violence, destructive and dangerous behaviour. Increasingly in demand, professionals often feel helpless in responding to young people who do not appear open to reason, or accept the care and compassion adults may have to offer them.
 
By far not all young people who exhibit violence and other controlling behaviours have been traumatised, nor are all families in which aggressive behaviour forms a regular pattern multi-stressed families. However, when parents and young people have experienced domestic violence, sexual violence and developmental trauma, sometimes over generations, professionals, parents, children, professionals, friends and family and the community often live and tell stories of victimisation and disability. The question is: how can we professionals, as members of the larger system around the family, help facilitate the transition from a victim narrative, which sees being done to as the only alternative to violence, and mistakes dominance and control with authority, to a heroic narrative, in which family and the community around the family find strength, agency, and connection with one another?
 
This 3-day workshop will explore ways in which the principles and methods of Non Violent Resistance can be used to overcome trauma. Using presentation and experiential exercises, a two-day seminar will focus on
 
Reversing the trauma cascade: Transforming interaction in the larger system, to help the nuclear family become an emotionally and physically safe recovery environment. Critical and prescriptive communication between other adults around the family and parents represents a form of dominance that makes families feel emotionally unsafe. Dangerous and coercive other adults threaten not only emotional, but also physical safety. Maximising safe support, utilising the positive intentions of critical others and helping them become cooperative instead of dominant, and powerfully resisting the intrusion of dangerous other adults, are all pathways to helping parents deconstruct their dominance-oriented understandings of authority and enabling them to make their family a safer environment for the recovery from trauma.
 
Re-kindling the caring dialogue: We can see parents as intrinsically able to attend and attune to their child, develop empathy and act with compassion; we can see children and young people as intrinsically able to acknowledge and accept their parents’ care. However, years of trauma often lead to isolation and rupture in parent-child relationships. Reconciliation work and imagining an active caring dialogue in Nin Violent Resistance can be used to overcome obstacles to the re-connection of parents or other caregivers and young people.
 
Processing parental trauma: Parents who have experienced violence and abuse for many years, or throughout their lives, can easily be re-traumatised by a multitude of aggressive and controlling behaviours of their children. Foster carers or carers in children’s homes often experience secondary traumatisation and ‘erasure’ – a state of mind, in which they are no longer internally connected with different aspects of self, feeling numb and no longer experiencing their impulse to protect themselves or others. Exceptions to trauma-inducing interaction, ‘unique outcomes’ that have emerged in the practice of NVR, and interpersonal grounding can bring about the experience of peaceful, yet determined agency in parents who want to bring about change in their families while healing from their own experience of trauma.
 
The third day is an NVR masterclass for trauma. We will work on the participants’ own cases, and participants are invited to bring their own clients to the day (please contact Jan Olthof to discuss this possibility), or present their cases for consultation.
 
Dr Peter Jakob
Consultant Clinical Psychologist
 
With a background in social work, Peter has worked as Clinical Psychologist and Family Therapist in both CAMHS and Adult Mental Health for over 30 years, specialising in children and families involved with child protective services. He has in-depth knowledge of treating trauma as the after-effect of childhood sexual abuse and other forms of sexual violence, physical abuse, neglect and domestic violence, as well as extensive experience in providing therapy for parents’ mental health problems.
Peter has introduced Non Violent Resistance to the UK. He has adapted the approach for heavily traumatised, multi-stressed families, and his work with looked-after children has inspired him to develop a child focus in NVR. Peter is a prolific national and international presenter.

 

3-daagse workshop
From Victimisation to
Re-kindling the Caring Dialogue
door Peter Jakob

29 - 31 maart 2017

 
Peter Jakob organiseert in samenwerking met de School Voor Systemische Opleidingen van Jan Olthof de workshop:
 
Van slachtofferschap naar een zorgzame dialoog

Het construeren van verhalen van kracht, zorg, mededogen en verbinding in Geweldloos Verzet en Nieuwe Autoriteit
 
Datum en tijd
29 maart t/m 31 maart 2017
van 10.00 – 17.30 u.
 
Aanmelding
Je kunt je aanmelden voor deze cursus door te mailen naar de opleidingscoördinator:
Mariëlle Gelissen
E: info@schoolvoorsystemischeopleidingen.nl

Voor meer informatie kun je met Mariëlle contact opnemen via het bovenstaande e-mailadres of via 0031 (0)6 18050855.

Accreditatie
Deze workshop is door de Nederlandse Vereniging voor Relatie- en gezinstherapie (NVRG) geaccrediteerd voor 20 punten.
Kosten
Deelname aan de workshop kost € 480 (incl. reader en lunch), over te maken naar rekeningnr:
NL 93 ABNA 0438168062
t.n.v. School voor Systemische Opleidingen te Bunde.
 
Onderstaand het programma van deze 3-daagse workshop.

 
From Victimisation to Re-kindling the Caring Dialogue:
 
Constructing narratives of strength, care, compassion and connection in Non Violent Resistance and New Authority
 
This seminar and masterclass is suitable for professionals such as psychologists, social workers, family therapists, psychotherapists, special needs practitioners, mental health nurses and others who work with families, children in foster care and in residential children’s homes.
 
Non Violent Resistance and New Authority is a fast growing systemic approach for dealing with violence, destructive and dangerous behaviour. Increasingly in demand, professionals often feel helpless in responding to young people who do not appear open to reason, or accept the care and compassion adults may have to offer them.
 
By far not all young people who exhibit violence and other controlling behaviours have been traumatised, nor are all families in which aggressive behaviour forms a regular pattern multi-stressed families. However, when parents and young people have experienced domestic violence, sexual violence and developmental trauma, sometimes over generations, professionals, parents, children, professionals, friends and family and the community often live and tell stories of victimisation and disability. The question is: how can we professionals, as members of the larger system around the family, help facilitate the transition from a victim narrative, which sees being done to as the only alternative to violence, and mistakes dominance and control with authority, to a heroic narrative, in which family and the community around the family find strength, agency, and connection with one another?
 
This 3-day workshop will explore ways in which the principles and methods of Non Violent Resistance can be used to overcome trauma. Using presentation and experiential exercises, a two-day seminar will focus on
 
Reversing the trauma cascade: Transforming interaction in the larger system, to help the nuclear family become an emotionally and physically safe recovery environment. Critical and prescriptive communication between other adults around the family and parents represents a form of dominance that makes families feel emotionally unsafe. Dangerous and coercive other adults threaten not only emotional, but also physical safety. Maximising safe support, utilising the positive intentions of critical others and helping them become cooperative instead of dominant, and powerfully resisting the intrusion of dangerous other adults, are all pathways to helping parents deconstruct their dominance-oriented understandings of authority and enabling them to make their family a safer environment for the recovery from trauma.
 
Re-kindling the caring dialogue: We can see parents as intrinsically able to attend and attune to their child, develop empathy and act with compassion; we can see children and young people as intrinsically able to acknowledge and accept their parents’ care. However, years of trauma often lead to isolation and rupture in parent-child relationships. Reconciliation work and imagining an active caring dialogue in Nin Violent Resistance can be used to overcome obstacles to the re-connection of parents or other caregivers and young people.
 
Processing parental trauma: Parents who have experienced violence and abuse for many years, or throughout their lives, can easily be re-traumatised by a multitude of aggressive and controlling behaviours of their children. Foster carers or carers in children’s homes often experience secondary traumatisation and ‘erasure’ – a state of mind, in which they are no longer internally connected with different aspects of self, feeling numb and no longer experiencing their impulse to protect themselves or others. Exceptions to trauma-inducing interaction, ‘unique outcomes’ that have emerged in the practice of NVR, and interpersonal grounding can bring about the experience of peaceful, yet determined agency in parents who want to bring about change in their families while healing from their own experience of trauma.
 
The third day is an NVR masterclass for trauma. We will work on the participants’ own cases, and participants are invited to bring their own clients to the day (please contact Jan Olthof to discuss this possibility), or present their cases for consultation.
 
Dr Peter Jakob
Consultant Clinical Psychologist
 
With a background in social work, Peter has worked as Clinical Psychologist and Family Therapist in both CAMHS and Adult Mental Health for over 30 years, specialising in children and families involved with child protective services. He has in-depth knowledge of treating trauma as the after-effect of childhood sexual abuse and other forms of sexual violence, physical abuse, neglect and domestic violence, as well as extensive experience in providing therapy for parents’ mental health problems.
Peter has introduced Non Violent Resistance to the UK. He has adapted the approach for heavily traumatised, multi-stressed families, and his work with looked-after children has inspired him to develop a child focus in NVR. Peter is a prolific national and international presenter.

School voor systemische opleidingen

Schoolpad 7 ~ 6241 CK Bunde ~ 0031 (0)6 18050855 ~ info@schoolvoorsystemischeopleidingen.nl
IBAN: NL93 ABNA 0438168062 - BIC: ABNA NL 2A

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